A Special Tribute
My Eulogy of my Aunt: Candy Ann Alpan
(with thoughts and experiences included and highlighted in italic)
Candy Ann Alpan was one of seven siblings of whom she all had a special influence and significant relationship with. Sisters include Christina Alpan, Wilma Harris, Brenda Taylor, and Brothers Al Alpan, Grant Harris and Michael Alpan. Her past to present memories along with her future kindled solace are kept alive through her daughter, Trena Alpan Jones and Son-in Law Clarence Jones. All of these individuals I’m sure would agree that Aunt Candy had a mind of her own, did what she wanted to do and was someone who loved life. And if there ever was a problem or roadblock, even from an early age she did not dwell on it. She was always more geared toward solving the concern and moving on.
Being born Christmas Eve December 24, 1959 to Freddie lee Cormier and Wilbert Harris in Port Arthur, Texas Candy Alpan realized early on that life was more about giving, and not what was given to you in return. Even to this day I would hear thoughts of her sharing the disadvantages of being born on Christmas Eve. She would say that “Everyone else in the world would get to receive a gift on their birthday, in addition to something to look forward to under the Christmas tree”. Nope not her! She received one gift on a majority of occasions for both days seeing that they are back to back. She definitely was the first to let others in the family know of this unfair grievance, but with a Smile. At some point early in her life she began to not only see but witness the testimony of how it felt to give rather than receive. Because of this one moment, everyone here seated in this room has benefited.
As a hard working and dedicated individual, Candy started a career at Gulf Oil and remained an active and professional leader there for 33 years. With an unmatched work ethic and strong will she built many last relationships and left “footprints” in many co-workers’ hearts. Knowing my Aunt Candy there were also a few individuals that she didn’t care for or mesh with as well due to her realistic and straightforward mentality. I can imagine her saying that every individual on earth needs those 1 or 2 people at any given time or day to remind you of the blessings and common sense that the Lord has given (You), that he may not have been so gracious to give to others. So be thankful!
September 21, 1996 she married Mr. Jeffrey Brooks whom which she shared love for over 15 years until Mr. Brooks went to be with the Lord in 2011, She cherished their times and experience together and still holds him dear to her heart. Aunt Candy would always say that Uncle Jeff wasn’t much of a talker, but knowing Uncle Jeff, I am pretty sure that he felt that she talked enough for both of them!
For those who didn’t know my Aunt, Candy had many interests including traveling, helping out friends and family in need, listening to jazz music, and most of all being the life of every party. Relatives and friends were all looking forward to her frequent willingness to host family trips and lead group oriented celebrations. But I personally saw the vision and uniqueness of her character. Though she was the sociable life of the party, none of these celebrations were about her. They were always to bring the family together and or uplift another individual to make them feel special! From brothers and sisters down to nieces and nephew, to co-workers and friends, Candy was a giver and at the same time, a solid rock of strength. My fondness memories of my Aunt are in the fact that by being so solid she didn’t have time for any foolishness and she wanted to make sure that everybody was working just as hard as she was. I can remember many conversations with her that all started similar with, (“Hey, how you doing, SO HOW’S WORK)? She saw to it that everybody around her no matter the age had a job didn’t she…………. I feel that in her eyes, if you were seven years old, that age at least qualifies you for some kind of part time employment status! She encouraged everyone young to old in some way. Whether through sharing strengthening words or humorously bragging about how many pistols she had lying around the house! Family and friends were “motivated” by her.
This amazing person, aunt, sister, co-worker and friend, Candy (C.A.) Alpan journeyed to meet the Lord this past Sunday, October 14, 2012. She is very much loved and will be missed! My personal opinion about my Aunt is that God gained a fighter who not only talked the talk but walked the walk here on earth. She would want all of us to not just merely have life, but live life. Exist with a purpose and seek to bring meaning to each and every day. Help others when you can even if you feel that what you are giving may not be much. To them those memories last a life time. I can vividly remember maybe 15-20 years ago as a kid, her sending and sponsoring me to summer camps. She wanted me to see more than just the inside of my room during the summer. Additionally, I recollect her generously giving me $5 for every A’ and $3 for every B’ I received on my report card. Although this was years ago I will never forget her loving attitude and my enthusiasm in coming home and doing my homework just to get those five dollars an A’ every six weeks. Seeing now that the money didn’t matter when I was a kid, but that it was entirely about her purposeful influence and contribution in shaping me into who I am as an adult. I CAN SEE WHY THE LORD WOULD WANT SOMEONE LIKE THIS NEAR TO HIM ……..
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